I hate flower arrangement and flower decorations in buildings and ceremonies and places
It always reminds me of death. That's what it looks like to me, those flower decorations at funerals.
I've never been given flowers by a boy or anyone except my school to welcome me and even then it felt weird. It feels like a bad omen.
Flowers die quickly after they are plucked and people know this but they still pick them because they're beautiful.
A Japanese friend tried to explain it to me once. The Japanese really appreciate flowers. She offered me a flower that was from a stage display that was taken down. I told her I didn't like flowers and she was shocked. When I told her why, she explained to me that we need to appreciate beauty while it's still there even though we know it will fade and wither away. Unfortunate to the situation she had just recently lost her father and this conversation made her a little emotional which made me feel sick with guilt so I apologized. She asked me to please not feel sorry for her or feel obliged to talk about it now because she'd had that plenty from people. I appreciated the honesty and then went on to observe the flowers more carefully. They were indeed beautiful. I still couldn't help but feel sorry that they were slowly dying in my hand.
She must've sensed this because then she called her husband and asked him to explain to me why people pick flowers. He said that either way they would end up dying one day and that they were made for us to appreciate so we use them and then we let go of them when they die but feel hopeful when we know the spring will come again and new flowers will bloom.
In the end I agreed and took the flowers.
I still hate picked flowers. They remind me of funerals. The only flowers I can appreciate are those that continue to live in pot plants or on the earth. This January, my friend and I went to see fields upon fields of bloomed cosmos and we frolicked in them and even picked the ones that had been trampled and looked like they would die anyway. We both didn't want to pick the healthy ones. After appreciating the dying cosmos I threw mine away with somewhat a heavy heart yet feeling grateful that I could appreciate them before they died.
I don't understand why we can't love things and appreciate them from a distance if that means preserving their life. I don't understand a love that is so possessive to the point that the threat of death makes ownership worthwhile. How can you love something to death just because you won't let it go? Love shouldn't be possessive or stifling or deadly.
Yes all loving things will certainly die one day and yes their beauty should be appreciated. Yes life is short and a glimpse into this madness of a puzzle but the short time we have should be thriving not suffocating. Should be nurtured not abused for what we can give.
Do flower arrangers even bother to make specific stage designs for weddings or funerals? I've seen the same design in both occasions with just different colors and got sick to my stomach at the underlying symbol I saw from it all. It's all just temporary. Passing. Wind.
I don't want picked flowers at my wedding. I want pots with blooming life on them. When my time of rest comes, then you can pick me flowers and then plant a tree on top of me.
